Yesterday, Johnny’s little sister, Princess, had a playdate with two friends from preschool. It was a tumultuous time because the girls haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks because of sickness, travel and Spring Break. They are also 3-1/2 and 4 and are still figuring out the social side of friendship and peer-to-peer play. Things like we all play together and don’t leave a friend by themselves but take them with when we move to another part of the house or we don’t yell at our friend for bumping into them. Generally Princess had fun but she came home wanting to share about her hurt feelings and why. She told Johnny about it a few times (he knows the girls) and the last time he turned and hugged her and kissed her on the head and said “its okay Princess.”
Later I asked him what she told him and he said “ Princess fell on her friend’s game and ***** got mad and Princess is sad.” I asked him how that made him feel after taking to Princess about her day. “I feel sad Mommy….sad for Princess. We play nice with our friends Mommy.”
I love to savour these moment to remember but especially when they break another stereotype about Autism that Autistics have executive challenges regarding empathy and seeing things from another persons point of view.